Saturday, 31 December 2011

PDP - Public Displays of Parenting

While many parents insist on leaving their children at home when they go out for a nice evening, others would never think of going without them.  As someone who works in a restaurant, I have seen parents who handle their children, as I would say, horribly, and others who handle them with ease.  Along with that, I have seen the other patrons who eyes can't help but glare at the unruly children and then to the parents as if to say, 'are you going to do something about that?'.

Whenever my husband and I go to dinner with our daughter, we go with the awareness of how close her bedtime is and what kind of timeframe we are working with.  If we do decide to take her with us, we know that we are running on her time and not ours.  As soon as there is a sign of restlessness or a 'tantrum' we pack up, get our food to go if we haven't managed to down it yet, and hit the road.  We do not try to find things to distract her or let her run around to other tables as some sort of entertainment act.  And god forbid if she has started to cry before we are able to get outside the restaurant, we move as if a fire has been lit from under us.  Now, some of you reading this may think that we over react.  However, I have been on the other side of this.  The parents who finally have a nice, romantic evening planned at a nice restaurant who's only wish is to sit and talk without being interrupted by their child.  So why would I want to possibly be the person who's child is interrupting that night for someone else.

I think that sometimes parents assume that everyone else should just be ok with our kids and their behaviour, whether good or bad.  But I think it is important to remember that just as we have chosen to have kids, others may have made the choice not to.  We have to always be aware of our surroundings but more importantly, our kids and the signs they are sending us.  Do they want to be out or should they be at home?

How do you handle your kids when you take them out?  Do you stay as long as possible or to you make a quick exit?  Do you use bribes to try and get them to behave in order to extend your night?

Tuesday, 13 December 2011

Which Choice is the Right Choice?

When I found out I was pregnant, the first thing that popped into my head (after sharing the excitement with my husband), was how I was going to approach everything that comes along with a pregnancy.  Your diet and excercise, doctor or midwife, home or hospital, drugs or 'natural'?  And that is just the beginning!  Then there are all the choices that you (and your partner, if present) have to decide on. 

I decided I would read as much as possible from a variety of sources and try to make the most educated decision possible.  Easy right?  WRONG!  There is so much conflicting information 'out there' that I didn't know which ones to let form my opinions.  In the end, I went with what FELT RIGHT to me and my husband.  After all, isn't that the best that any of us can do.  And while what we chose may not have been what someone else would choose, that is the beauty to this country, we all have the right to choose. 

Many blogs that I have read in the past are very clear on the positions they take on certain issues, which is fine.  But my whole reason for creating this blog was to have a space where moms of all different choices could come to learn, laugh, and share without feeling judged by my personal choices.

Get as many facts as you can, ask lots of questions to many different people/experts, and in the end, trust your maternal instinct (yes I believe it comes as soon as you get pregnant!).  After all, a mother will always make the best choice for HER and HER BABY!

Wednesday, 7 December 2011

The Sweet Moments

Going through 'old' pictures this morning got me thinking, "ahhh...I miss those days when Davea and I could have naps together on the couch!".  It seems so long ago that naps were an accepted, and encouraged, part of my daily routine.  Now it's rushing off to daycare and forgetting to bring milk home.  I think as busy moms (those who work and Stay-at-home) we forget that it's okay to try and keep those 'lost' moments alive. 

No, I won't nap with my daughter for two hours on the couch anymore, mostly because it is almost impossible.  But every once and a while when we are cuddling before her nap, I will hold her until she falls asleep and wait five minutes.  I will take the time to listen to the pitter-patter of her heart and the sweet sound of her breathing.  Not only is it a piece of nostalgia, but it calms me.  Those 5 minutes of bliss are what I like to call 'the sweet moments'. 

Remember, no matter how busy our daily calendar is, you can always find 5 minutes for a little extra sweetness in your life.